Let's hear from you!

Ladies! How are you? We're basically nearing an end to writing about so long insecurity, although you may hear from one or two of us about it again. I don't know about you but spring has sprung and life is flying by at our house. I want to share a verse with you that is speaking to me this week..... I started a post on it but saved it as I want some more time to really... chew on it.

Colossians 3:23 - Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as if working for the Lord, not for men.

Stay tuned friends... Meanwhile.. what verse has been speaking to you lately? Do you have one? Please share it with us! If you don't have one, may I lovingly suggest that you spend some time in the word and see/listen to what He's speaking to you!

Love,

Shan

Refereeing

Is refereeing a word? I am not really sure, but I am too tired tonight to look it up! I know most of you all can relate to being TIRED. Dragging your feet around tired. But I really want to write a quick post tonight about what God has been teaching to me as of late.

Referee --- that is my current occupation. I am constantly breaking up fights between my two children, ages 8 and 5. Mom, if you are reading this, I am so sorry for all those fights you had to be the referee for! I am feeling your pain now. UGH. Fights at breakfast, fights before breakfast, antagonizing, retaliation, tattling, tears, denial. Then, when they are not fighting, they are at the opposite end of the spectrum, being goofy and loud and silly, which ultimately leads into someone crossing the line, and you guessed it! More fighting!!!

I am sure all moms struggle with their kids fighting. My husband is lost because he has no siblings. He asks, "Is this normal?" I answer, "Yes it's normal, but it's driving me crazy!"

What to do to teach my children to get along with each other? Well, I am still working on it, but I can tell you that God is really teaching me patience and reliance on Him during this season of my life. I have to go to Him to ask him for peace, for reassurance, and for some ideas!! At times, I think, "Lord, are any of the values we have been teaching to them sinking in? By this behavior I would say NOT!!!!" Then the doubts come about my parenting skills. You know how it goes.

But I know that if I remain in His word, he will make me "strong, firm and steadfast." (1 Peter 5:10. That in the middle of the battle, I can breath a word of prayer to Him and my spirit will be renewed. If I go into the battle wearing the full armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-19), I will prevail instead of my doubts and frustrations. That with His help, the words of my mouth will be acceptable and pleasing to Him, not negative and bitter towards my children.

Here is a little idea I had last week to help my kids put God's word in their hearts everyday, and it helps every morning start on a more positive note as we discuss the verse of the day. And it looks pretty darn cute on my kitchen wall especially since I got it for ten bucks!

Teaching them to love one another is not an easy job, but it is one of the most important jobs I will do in my life. I cannot imagine doing it without God leading the way.

Guest Post

I have a treat for you ladies! Our friend Kelsey, is guest posting today about hearing Beth Moore speak about the book we've been talking about! Enjoy. :)

“So Long Unbeliefs”

Well, here I am a first time blogger. I am nervous, anxious, worried that I am going to spell a word wrong or say something that makes no sense. What if someone reading this laughs at what I type? What if I type something that someone else doesn’t get or agree with. Now I have myself laughing at what I am typing.

STOP IT! Stop being insecure, knock it off. I struggle with being insecure every single day. (Does anyone out there know what I am saying?) So when a girlfriend of mine told me about a Beth Moore seminar on her book, “So Long Insecurities” I knew I could not pass up the chance to hear what Beth Moore herself had to say. And let me tell you something, I could listen to Beth Moore speak all day, every day. I wish it was her voice in my head instead of mine sometimes.

While sitting there listening to her and doubting that she could really say something that would impact me, make me a more secure person, her words started hitting me upside the head. At one point I thought I was the only one in the room. Oh my goodness, Beth Moore is talking directly to me. I can’t believe this. Then back to reality I remember that she is actually talking to around 300,000 women. Think about that for a moment. 300,000 is a good size city and just think if all the women in the world who wanted to hear her speak or need to hear her speak could have been listening to her. It is sad that this world has come to the point that this many women need to hear a lecture on insecurities.

How do we, as Christian women, change this? We start with ourselves. If we can not get our own insecurities under control, how do we expect our daughters and younger generations to be any different? Beth had so many great points on Saturday and I wish I could share them all but I don’t think any of you would actually want to read 3 hours of my notes on what Beth had to say. But here are some thoughts that really stuck with me.

• You have nothing to gain from your insecurities, NOTHING. The next time you are being insecure, ask yourself that very question. “What am I, or anyone around me, gaining from me being this way?”
• Insecurity is not a weakness, it is an unbelief. When we are being insecure, isn’t what we are really doing is doubting God?
• If you are going to walk around this world with purpose and confidence it will be because you want and intend to. It will not just happen. You have to make the decision in your minds to be secure, strong women of God, and then follow through with your feet. You can not wait to feel secure, you have to choose to be secure in your own mind.
• Women do not become secure on accident.

The last thought I want to leave you with is this…

People who deeply believe they are graced will grace others. Ladies, lets be the exceptions out there is this falling world. Lets walk in our faith and belief in Jesus Christ, which means putting our insecurities (all of them) in the trash and moving on with pride in who God made us to be. We can tell our daughters and other ladies in our lives to love who they are but if we do not love ourselves, flaws and all, how will they ever really learn.

YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN, JUST AS GOD CREATED YOU!

“She is called with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of the household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also; and he praises her. Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all. Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

Proverbs 31:25-31

ReNew

So the church I am working for now has decided to do a "Green theme" Vacation Bible School. The kit we ordered is all about being good stewards of God's creation. It focuses on the Parable of the Sower and making sure that God plants His seed of love into our hearts and what we need to do to help grow the seed. As I have been preparing for this VBS, I have spent a long time thinking about how my life in ministry has been renewed in the last month.

I am so happy when I am serving Christ. It's so easy sometimes to slip into a routine of work. I have been making myself focus each week on my end goal: to cultivate an environment where God can reveal Himself to kids! It's so sxciting to be a part of this! My heart's passion is people, more specifically children. And I am getting to work with some amazing volunteers.

I am thankful for the renewing that God is doing in my life. I hope that He is refreshing your passions and creating a great desire to serve.

The Legacy We Leave Behind

This will be my last post on "SLI" but let me just say that I have learned so much from reading it. Beth, as always, does a phenomenal job relating to all women, no matter where you are in your life or your circumstances. So many moments that made me stop, think, pray, and want to change things about the way I am living day to day.

So, I decided to write about my daughter tonight. In one of the chapters, Beth writes about how we, as mothers, really affect our daughters in relation to her own insecurities. Man, if nothing makes you want to change your views on insecurity, thinking about how you might pass on your own warped views of yourself and others onto your child, whew! I cannot imagine raising a daughter in the times we live in without God's help!

My daughter is five years old and going to kindergarten in the fall (sniff, sniff). I just attended kindergarten round-up tonight with her, and she is beyond excited to go to the "big" school with her brother next year. As she pranced around the school, taking pictures of the teachers, the principal, the bus, and the library, I thought, "Man, I can't believe how comfortable and confident she is! Praise God that she got some of her Daddy's genes in that area." (When I was her age, I was pretty shy and very anxious about attending a new school!)

She is brimming with innocent, wonderful expectations about how school will be for her. My thoughts: How will I keep this attitude going when she is 10, 12, and 15 years old? How can I cultivate that confidence in who she is, inside and out? How can make her understand that God created her, knowing her even BEFORE she was created, knowing that she has a unique purpose in His plan? That He loves her NO MATTER WHAT. Even more than her father and I love her. And that no one can ever change that. EVER.

That is the challenge for us moms with daughters, especially. (not to leave out boys, because we definitely leave an impact on their perception of women as well.) But girls.... Yes, I want to be strong for my daughter and show her security, as a woman, a wife, a mother, a friend, and a child of God. I will do it for her.

"She will have no fear of bad news, her heart is steadfast, trusting in the Lord. her heart is secure, she will have no fear, in the end she will look in triumph of her foes". Psalm 112:7-8

So long, farewell....

Are you singing the rest of the song from The Sound of Music? If not, read the title again and I bet you will be....

Okay, seriously I am saying "so long! farewell! peace out! good riddens (insert your own word here______)" to my insecurities. I am sending them packing and making sure they don't leave anything behind.

I have spent a lot of time praying this past week. Praying for friends, family, students, and myself. I have spent LOTS of time in my backyard just enjoying the many blessings that God has poured on me. I have dug into some of my favorite scripture and been taken into deeper levels of understanding of my faith.

But the biggest thing that has happened is saying "adios, ciao, aloha...." to some deep insecurities that I have harbored and allowed to define me for many years.

The last few chapters I have read dealt with men. This is an area that of my life that haunts me. Don't get me wrong, I have some AMAZING men in my life. But, I have allowed some men to tear me to pieces while doing the same to them. Specifically I let a very unhealthy relationship define me as a woman. I let satan use lie after lie after lie to lead me to believe that I am unworthy of healthy relationships, let alone, love. Listening and believing this has built up more scar tissue and insecurity than one person should ever have to deal with. I have known this was a struggle, but have continually pushed it to the back of my life (only to have it surface at inopportune moments over the past 10 years)!

Last week, I was laying in the backyard, basking in the sunshine when I was overwhelmed with peace. It's hard to describe. It was in the pit of my being. I knew. I just knew without a doubt that I am God's. I am HIS creation. I am HIS daughter. I have been bought at a price. I am FORGIVEN. And I need to forgive.

I did.

It was good.

Can't really describe it.

Satan has really been throwing crap at me, but I'm not scathed. I know who I am and I know WHOSE I am. I am a daughter of God. I am a beautiful child. I am worthy of love. I am a good friend. I am a dwelling place for the Holy Spirit. I am HIS.

And it feels good.

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not...

This book we are all reading is not meant to be a "dating book" Beth Moore's plan was not for us to get rid of our insecurity in order to please a man. Our final and most important motivation will be from our Father in Heaven who wonderfully made us.

So, making that clear, I just wanted to point out a few little "ah ha" moments for you while I was reading today. Insecurity is not attractive. Did you all know that? Isn't it interesting that we all so desperately want to attract "the right man" or new friends but we are all whether out in the open or deep down inside, insecure about something and that makes us so much less appealing!

When my husband and I talk about how we met, he tells me my confidence attracted him immediately. To which I usually laugh and say "confidence? where?" ( I'm getting better at it, now I just nod my head and smile!) In his opinion, being insecure and all worried about how I looked, or talked, or acted would have been the biggest turn off. Good thing I hid all that till I got the ring on my finger right? :) Now he will tell you he has learned that all women are insecure. He will still tell you that the biggest attraction for a man (of worth!) is confidence. I praise God that my hubby saw that in me and that he helps me regularly feel secure by loving me as I am, sweats, dirty hair, and all)

As I was reading through chapter 12, I learned that he isn't the only one who feels that way. That's a general consensus among men. That got me to thinking... I think it's not just men. I think that we as a whole want that secure, strong person to be our friend, neighbor, or love. Because if we form relationships based strongly or solely on our insecurities, they do not allow for that all encompassing love that comes from knowing that you are loved, warts and all. There is always a level of discomfort and worry and who can live life for an extended period of time like that?

One thing that I've noticed as I've started this journey... I feel like I'm seeing things in a different light. That statement that was sarcastic and maybe a bit rude?... She's insecure. That biting remark?... He's insecure. That negative reaction... from insecurity. This book has started to shape my thoughts and views and has shown me that we are all in the same boat friends... and I'm praying that we are all working our way out of it.