Thursday, April 15, 2010

He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not...

This book we are all reading is not meant to be a "dating book" Beth Moore's plan was not for us to get rid of our insecurity in order to please a man. Our final and most important motivation will be from our Father in Heaven who wonderfully made us.

So, making that clear, I just wanted to point out a few little "ah ha" moments for you while I was reading today. Insecurity is not attractive. Did you all know that? Isn't it interesting that we all so desperately want to attract "the right man" or new friends but we are all whether out in the open or deep down inside, insecure about something and that makes us so much less appealing!

When my husband and I talk about how we met, he tells me my confidence attracted him immediately. To which I usually laugh and say "confidence? where?" ( I'm getting better at it, now I just nod my head and smile!) In his opinion, being insecure and all worried about how I looked, or talked, or acted would have been the biggest turn off. Good thing I hid all that till I got the ring on my finger right? :) Now he will tell you he has learned that all women are insecure. He will still tell you that the biggest attraction for a man (of worth!) is confidence. I praise God that my hubby saw that in me and that he helps me regularly feel secure by loving me as I am, sweats, dirty hair, and all)

As I was reading through chapter 12, I learned that he isn't the only one who feels that way. That's a general consensus among men. That got me to thinking... I think it's not just men. I think that we as a whole want that secure, strong person to be our friend, neighbor, or love. Because if we form relationships based strongly or solely on our insecurities, they do not allow for that all encompassing love that comes from knowing that you are loved, warts and all. There is always a level of discomfort and worry and who can live life for an extended period of time like that?

One thing that I've noticed as I've started this journey... I feel like I'm seeing things in a different light. That statement that was sarcastic and maybe a bit rude?... She's insecure. That biting remark?... He's insecure. That negative reaction... from insecurity. This book has started to shape my thoughts and views and has shown me that we are all in the same boat friends... and I'm praying that we are all working our way out of it.


  1. I love that part of the book too Shan. It is so true that men want a woman who is confident in who she is, inside and out. Thanks for the truthful insight!

  2. Don't you just love those "ah ha" moments! Sometimes it can be words I've heard a million times and suddenly it makes sense. I am loving this book now and beginning to enjoy the journey God is leading me on. Thanks for sharing....always love to read your thoughts. :)